Yes, Iām copy-pasting a lot from previous versions of this post, because itās exhausting to rewrite the same info over and other again.
However, letās see if I can sum things up: my daughter Dessie has chronic kidney disease, currently at stage 4. Sometime, hopefully soon, she will need/get a donated kidney transplanted. That will take us over to Seattle for three to four months, basically moving us there for the duration.
Here is the information for possible kidney donors: Donors need to between 21-45, in reasonably good health, and O+ blood type. If this is something youāre interested, please contact the University of Washingtonās living donor program at 206-598-3627, and mention youāre interested in donating to Dessie McAdams. I am not sure what constitutes āreasonably good healthā in this case, though I think most people with chronic illnesses donāt qualify and anyone immmuno-compromised. Best to contact UW and ask.
We do have a possible living donor right now, and are waiting on the process, which may take months. I am hoping, however, that one way or the other Dessie will receive a new kidney in the next 12 months. Or so. Soon, Iām hoping. However, transplanted kidneys come with expiration dates averaging between 10-20 years, so her doctors want her to retain her native kidneys as long as possible.
I divorced my abusive ex about four years ago, taking on the marital debt to speed the divorce. I consolidated it, but just trying to staying alive as a family keeps piling up debt, pretty consistently putting us in the negative each month, because thereās more bills than money, and no way to be rid of bills without more money than we have. Iām trying. It kills me to keep asking for help. But Iāve learned if you donāt ask, people wonāt help; staying silent assumes youāre fine.
We are living in a house owned by my ex in laws, and thereāve repeated threats to evict us. Iād love to move, but thatās impossible without money. I badly want to get us into a place where neither my ex nor his family have power over us.
In about early May 2017, my daughter revealed to me that her father molested her, while we were still married., when she was about three or four. I reported this to CPS and the police., but ultimately nothing came of it, because by that time no physical evidence remained.
Im trying to keep my family safe, and well. Itās a constant and continuing struggle. We currently have an old but good working car; in the past few months, though, w eāve had tires blow out, and our car repossessed. Most recently it required a $754 fix; my mother was able and kind enough that help me that done, but I most pay her back somehow.
The house has issues; every time I think weāve tackled the last plumbing issue, a new one comes up. The last one was the bathroom sink. Getting them fixed means dealing with my ex mother in law or ex father in law. They like to use such things as excuses to interfere in our lives. The last time I requested a plumbing fix, they sent in my exās half-brother, who did the job but also called CPS on me. The houseās poor electrical setup regularly kills our lightbulbs.
YouCaring has been fully absorbed by GoFundMe as of July 31st, so thatās no longer an alternative. Be aware that the GFM does not reflect the approximately 40k in debt Iām struggling with, nor other life complications which money would help with, partly not to muddy up the donation page, but also because GoFundMe is fairly public and encourages shares to Facebook ā which is good for a donation platform, yes, but I donāt want my ex and his family to find out all our struggles.
I am looking into bankruptcy; that also requires money to file for. I am trying to modify our parenting plan so the kids either only see him in a formally supervised setting or not at all. Though Iām hunting for sliding fees and fee waivers, money is required for all of this. (Just filing for a parenting plan modification costs $260, if the court denies the fee waiver request.) Capitalism sucks pointy rocks.
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Do not donate if it will cause you personal hardship. Please. Donāt feel obliged to donate if you either canāt afford or even donāt want to. Rebloggjng and signal boosting, however, on whatever your available platforms are is greatly appreciated.
I do try to keep these posts updated as to my present financial status. As I receive SSDI (and my children receive social security funds through both their parents), money comes in on the third of each month and then whooshes out through the next three days. From there I try to keep us fed and alive any way I can ā mostly with plasma money right now.
We donāt get food stamps. We donāt get energy assistance. We donāt get housing assistance. This is not from pride; Iāve applied and been told our household has too much income. (They donāt take the total outgo into account, much, usually). We get health insurance, which is a plus or things would be infinitely, painfully worse.
Anyway, this is long enough so Iāll end it for now.
This monthās hell begins. Please help.
8/14/18 ā just moving this here to cut down on an increasingly long post. Thank you all so much for your help!
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