Don’t question people’s triggers okay? Just be a decent person and don’t. Just because their triggers may seem weird or silly to you doesn’t mean it is to them, and if they choose to not explain why those things are their triggers then leave it at that. 9 times out of ten they’d rather not bring it up, but if they do decide to explain them to you then you better listen. And for crying out loud don’t judge. as said before, just because the triggers might seem odd to you doesn’t mean they’re not a big deal to them.
Tag: mental health
sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.
“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.
“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.
when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.
if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.
you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.
This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.
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What I noticed about other people with mental illness;
People with anxiety will go out of their way to make sure you’re not uncomfortable or anxious about what’s going on
People with depression will joke & be silly & try to make you laugh
People with PTSD will respect your personal space & boundaries & ask before they invade your bubble
People with ADHD will not get impatient or snap at you if you talk to much/ramble/don’t get your point across quick enough
People with bipolar disorder will not judge you when your moods change & you “aren’t acting like yourself” one day
What I noticed about other people with mental illnesses is that they are the most understanding, empathetic, easy going, tolerant people. We know what it’s like to live & struggle with these issues every day & we always wanna make damn sure other people don’t have to go through it too if we can do anything to help it.
That’s literally my motto
Does anyone have sound-induced panic attack help/advice?
Panic attacks are a common thing for me, and since they happen often I’ve figured out some strategies that help me calm down, but some attacks are worse than others. Usually I get overwhelmed by loud sounds, especially loud sounds that overlap each other. In some cases it’s easy to handle, like if I’m at a big place or outside and there’s alot of people making noise at once, where it can become background noise. I usually have to deal with intense noise in small places though, and it usually sends me spiraling. I get overwhelmed, angry, I snap at people without intending to, and in some cases I end up crying. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? I usually have earbuds in, blaring music to drown out the noise, but that doesn’t always work. If anyone has any info it’d be a great help, I’m so tired of freaking out and having meltdowns. Literally anything will help, soothing playlists or song suggestions, techniques to calm myself down or techniques to keep me from freaking out in the first place, anything really. Anyway, thanks for reading this post all the way if you did, I know I’m rambling and more than likely being very annoying, but thanks anyway. Hope y’all are having a great day.
Sometimes the help you need isn’t the help you want. Call 1-800-273-8255 if you’re thinking of suicide.
This comic meant a whole lot to me. It was sincere in its depiction and treated the issue through the eyes of a grounded person. Not some godly hero saying everything is better than it seems, but a person trying his best before bringing her somewhere who can actually help.
Okay, I’m reblogging this for a couple reasons. 1, Deadpool is awesome and I love him XD (duh), 2, Hamilton is also awesome and I too love the musical (double duh XD) and 3, suicide is no laughing matter, but this comic have a heartfelt message across about a serious subject, and that’s not always easy to do. Sometimes giving up seems to be the easiest thing to do, believe me, I know. But sometimes that moment when we want to give up, may just really be a sign that we need help, becasue the weight of the world might be too much for one person, and that we need help. Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone, wether you believe it or not, there is always at least one person who is waiting to give you a helping hand.
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