actualanimevillain:

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

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bedbugsbiting:

My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.

I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”

I searched and searched for the post this graphic was from, and the OP deactivated, but I kept the graphic, because my BFF does the same thing, uses her imagination to come up with the worst pain she can imagine and pegs her “10″ there, and so is like, well, I’m conscious, so this must be a 5, and then the doctors don’t take her seriously. (And she then does things like driving herself to the hospital while in the process of giving birth. Probably should have called an ambulance for that one!)

So I found this and sent it to her. Because this is what they want to know: how badly is this pain affecting you? Not on a scale of “nothing” to “how I’d imagine it’d feel if bears were eating my still-living guts while I was on fire”.

I hate reposting stuff, but I’ll never find that post again and OP is deactivated, so, here’s a repost. I can delete this later, i just wanted to get it to you and I can’t embed images in a chat or an ask.

This is possibly why it took several weeks to diagnose my fractured spine.

Pain Scale transcription:

10 – I am in bed and I can’t move due to my pain. I need someone to take me to the emergency room because of my pain.

9 – My pain is all that I can think about. I can barely move or talk because of my pain.

8 – My pain is so severe that it is difficult to think of anything else. Talking and listening are difficult.

7 – I am in pain all the time. It keeps me from doing most activities.

6 – I think about my pain all of the time. I give up many activities because of my pain.

5 – I think about my pain most of the time. I cannot do some of the activities I need to do each day because of the pain.

4 – I am constantly aware of my pain but can continue most activities.

3 – My pain bothers me but I can ignore it most of the time.

2 – I have a low level of pain. I am aware of my pain only when I pay attention to it.

1 – My pain is hardly noticeable.

0 – I have no pain.

It’s also really important to get this kind of scale to people who have chronic pain, because chronic pain drastically lowers your perception of how “bad” any kind of pain actually is, and yet something like this pain scale is extremely user friendly.

For example, if someone asked me how much pain I’m in at any given time, I’d say hardly any, and yet I’m apparently at a chronic 2.5, and it only goes up from there depending on the day.

There’s also a similarly useful “Fatigue Scale”

I haven’t been below a 5 on this scale for 4 years

Here’s the fatigue scale

Very useful

Hey uhh I’m not really sure if you post as much anymore but do you have any tips on drawing anatomy and poses? I always end up drawing the same pose for everything hh

polygonhexagon:

HI YES HELLO IM STILL ALIVE JUST VERY BUSY IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW IM VERY SORRY- I’m aware I have an inbox full of requests, and I’m sorry to those waiting.
Anyways- I decided to answer this under “Read more” as uhhhh it’ll be pretty long.

Disclaimer: These are my own tips that I found that helped me and may not work for everyone!! And I am NOT a professional, I was not trained, my ways may be seen as incorrect to some.

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News – The real life Japanese shrine that was featured in Isao Takahata’s Studio Ghibli film Pom Poko is reportedly in danger of being torn down! Some residents are of course upset, and are currently urging not just environmentalists, but anime fans around the world to sign their petition to stop the shrine from being turned into an expanded parking lot. While the petition is in Japanese, anyone can sign it in their native language, so if you feel up to it, sign the petition here!

Head’s up: this petition is closing soon & is still short of its goal. If you haven’t signed yet, please consider!

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